I always thought I was pretty knowledgeable about the whole sex thing. Not in practice, but I thought I had the theory down.
Then I started reading sex blogs and I realised that I am a fucking newb. Which I guess is saying something about the state of sex education (knowledge? I've been out of school a while...) in general, since compared to my family and friends I'm an expert.
Greetings, from the eastern US. (And from another f--ing newb who's
ReplyDeletefiguring things out.)
I don't think I'd blame sex education, if you're referring to the schools.
I wouldn't expect schools to teach anything related to "alternate" sexual
lifestyles (except perhaps something on homosexuality, and tolerance).
I certainly wouldn't expect them to teach anything on bedroom technique.
When I came of age, a bit before the Internet was a real "thing", it would
have been very difficult to find any dependable information on non-
mainstream relationships. There certainly were self-help books (e.g.
"The Joy of Sex"), but they were targeted to the "vanilla" public. Something
like a D/s relationship would be too weird for normal people to consider.
That sort of thing would be something you'd expect from kinky New Yorkers
and San Fransiscans.
So, you're right, blogs, and the Internet in general, have really opened
things up. I'd go to the Internet before I went to a library, or any of my
friends and relatives.
Anyway. I came across your blog by accident and thought I'd comment.
Hope that's of some use, or interest. Will stop by again soon. Cheers.
Oh, haha! I didn't realise how that read. I wouldn't expect them to teach "technique" either.
ReplyDeleteI was actually talking about real sex ed. Like the stuff you see on Scarleteen.
When I was a teen I had this really great book that had a lot of information about health and feeling comfortable with yourself (of the "yes hair on your breasts is normal," "yes your labia are a normal colour," type) and it occurred to me that if it had had information about sex & stds in it too, rather than just bodies, I would probably know that stuff.
Funnily enough, when I google I see that the author's new book has that extra stuff in it.
See? This is why the blog is called This is not what I mean.
Ah. My mistake for leaping to a strange conclusion.
ReplyDeleteBut I will not take your blog's title too literally, otherwise I'll go nuts trying to understand you.